Della Devoted!: Why Mom Shaming Needs to Stop

Tuesday, August 28, 2018

Why Mom Shaming Needs to Stop



I have a very important topic that needs to be discussed. It's one that has weighed on my heart for quiet sometime. It's the topic of mom shaming. Yes, mom shaming really is a thing. You always hear about people shaming moms for whether or not they breastfeed, but you don't hear much about other mom shaming issues. I myself never really gave mom shaming much thought until I was shamed. Let me just say, people can be so cruel and hurtful even when they think they have good intentions. 

I get so tired of seeing and hearing other moms be so judgmental and hurtful. It needs to STOP! It doesn't matter if you delivered a baby naturally or had a C-section, either way you still gave birth to that precious baby. It also doesn't matter if you adopt, you are still their mom. God blessed you with that child for a reason. It doesn't matter if you have one child or ten. It doesn't matter if you breastfeed or bottle feed your baby, as long as the baby gets fed. It doesn't matter if you choose to vaccinate or not to vaccinate your child. It doesn't matter if you co-sleep with your child or put your child in a crib. It doesn't matter if your child threw a tantrum in the store. It also doesn't matter if you work or stay at home, you do what you have to do for you and your child. It also doesn't matter what school you choose to send your child to or if you homeschool your child. It doesn't matter if you choose to send your child to head start/preschool or if you wait until they get into kindergarten to send them. You know what is best for your child. After all, you are their mom. Everyone else's opinion is irrelevant. It also doesn't matter if your house is squeaky clean or if there are toys all over the floor. It also certainly does not matter how much money you have. 

What matters is that your child is shown love every single day. That you spend time with them and be present in their lives. Make time for them. They are the most important thing in your life. That you are there for them. That you feed them, even if it is through the drive thru a lot of days. That you teach them to be kind to everyone they meet. That you raise them to realize that they are no better than anyone else. That you teach them to treat everyone with respect. That you teach  them to be good a decent person. That you teach them to always lend a helping hand and do their best to help someone in need. That you teach them to do their very best in life, and if they fail teach them to try again. It also matters that you be understanding and supportive. That you teach them to be brave and courageous. Praise them when they do good and correct them when they are wrong. Teach your children about God. Teach them right from wrong. Teach your children to be positive. Listen to your children and speak words of encouragement to them. Laugh with them, give them hugs. Also raise a child that doesn't have to recover from their childhood. Give them a good and happy life. Most of all, love them unconditionally. That is what matters the most! 

God gave that child or children to you. He didn't give them to someone else. He specifically chose you to be their mom. God knew what those babies stood in need of and how well you can mother them. No one else could take care of them the way you can, so that's why he chose you to be their mom. There is no such thing as a perfect mom. We don't always have it all together. Most of the time we are one big hot mess, but that's ok. Our children still love us anyway. Your child doesn't care what you are or what you do or how much money you have, they still love you anyway. Each mom has different abilities and different children. Each situation is different than someone else's. Each mother has to make a choice that is different than another moms. Each mom has to decide what is best for their child and for themselves. 

Do not ever look down on another mom and make them feel like they are doing motherhood all wrong. If you have the opportunity to be a mom, just know how blessed you are. Live your life for you and your children. Live your best life and let your kids be happy. There is no such thing as a perfect mom. We are all doing the best we can.  Being a mom is the most important job in the world and the most rewarding job ever. Stop the bullying and judging and just let other moms enjoy motherhood. Stop making moms feels like they are less than. They are enough! Let them be happy! It's that simple! 



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