10 Tips I've learned After 10 Years of Marriage - Della Devoted

10 Tips I've learned After 10 Years of Marriage



Today makes 10 Years that Justin and I have been married. On July 18, 2009 I walked down the aisle to my happily ever after. Altogether, Justin and I have been together for 15 years. We dated 5 years before saying I do. Yes, we were high school sweethearts. In a world with a high divorce rate, I'm so thankful that Justin and I have stayed married for as long as we have. Marriage hasn't always been a bed of roses. Sometimes it has been just plain hard, but it has always been worth it. God has truly blessed us and our beautiful little family. Here are 10 Tips I've learned After 10 Years of Marriage.



At our household shower, I had people write down their favorite tips for a healthy marriage on Index cards. Today, I realize that not one piece of advice was bad advice. They were all great tips. So, now I'm sharing with you my favorite tips.

  1. Keep God in the Center of Your Marriage- Marriage doesn't take two people; it takes three. You cannot have a good marriage if God is not in the center of it. I pray for our marriage every single day. I ask God to bless our marriage and to guide us in any decisions that we may make. 
  2. Always be honest no matter how hard the truth will hurt.
  3. Have each other's Back- Don't let anyone talk bad about your spouse. Always stand up for your spouse, no matter who gets offended. 
  4. Make Time for each other- Life get hectic with work and kids, but always make an effort to spend  quality time together. 
  5. Show Simple Ways of Caring- Justin and I still do little things to show that we care and that we are thinking about each other. Whether it be writing a simple love note, picking up their favorite snack or cooking their favorite dinner; we still try to find small ways to show that we care. 
  6. Compromise- Marriage isn't about one person, it's about both of you. It's about compromising, even when you don't want to. For example, my husband loves to race. I know that he mostly races on Saturdays and that racing is something that he loves to do. So, I go to the races with him on Saturdays and we do what I want on Sundays after church. 
  7. Pick your battles- Don't sweat the small stuff. Don't argue over every single thing, especially something small. 
  8. Apologize- Don't let your pride get in the way! Always Apologize even when you don't want to. 
  9. Never ever go to bed Angry- Stay up and talk through it. We always give each other a hug and kiss before bed even if we have argued. 
  10. Make an effort in the bedroom- Don't turn your partner down when it comes to the bedroom unless you have a good reason. I know sometimes we are sick or just way too exhausted. It's perfectly okay not to perform your bedroom duties then, but don't use the excuse you are tired or don't feel like it every day. Make every effort to keep the fire going in the bedroom and your marriage. 
Marriage is a blessing from God! 

"A good marraige isn't something you find; it's something you make...and you have to keep on making it." - Gary Thomas-

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